When You Fall in the Mud Puddle, Check Your Pockets for Fish

January 6, 2010

I’ve been talking about Keith Ferrazzi’s book Never Eat Alone ever since I read it last year because it is the best book on relationship marketing and on the value of your personal network. I’ve mentioned him several times, but the following post from his blog is very relevant and captures his philosophy as it applies to those in transition. I am copying it here in its entirety:

Here are four pieces of advice to those who are in transition in their jobs or careers. My wish is that 2010 is full of wonderful transitions – and that more of them are voluntary!

1. You may have heard people say, “If you can think up the question, you can think up the answer.” Your mind and your character are up to any challenge. So focus on answering this question: “How do I make this change the best thing that has ever happened to me?”

2. Reach out to the real relationships in your life. What better time to figure out who they truly are? No one is better positioned to help you consider what’s next – and how to get it. Also have someone really close help you brainstorm around your greatest strengths and weaknesses; these can provide clues and spark ideas.

3. In addition to the career quest, which will inevitably take twists and turns, commit yourself to some personal pursuits that you have been meaning to take on for a long time but never had the time – for example, run a marathon, become an expert in social media, restructure your personal finances, find the charity to which you want to meaningfully commit, help a friend in need, etc. These will become part of your answer to the question in (1) above, and as important, they’ll provide a positive experience and purposefulness every day.

4. Once you figure out what you want, create a long list of people you need to meet to get there. It’s so much easier for your friends to help you by making introductions if you have your “wish list” mapped out on paper. But don’t rush it: No one can ever help you until you know what you want.

Readers: Care to share transition stories? Nothing like a good success story when you’re looking.

By the way, you can see my columns on career coaching and transitions at SF Examiner.com.

JP McDermott is a financial services and insurance advisor in Walnut Creek, CA. specializing in career transitions. He is also a career and financial coach, a freelance writer on career coaching with SF Examiner.com, and has been volunteering his time and experience to various non-profit, service and civic organizations.
JP lives in Danville with his wife Candy.

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